If you have any questions not included here, please feel free to start a thread or PM a moderator. FAQs are broken into sections for navigability reasons. Thanks to @Maya for all the screenshots. Spoiler: Community basics Q. Do I have to be mentally ill, disabled, or autistic to be here? No. This is conceived primarily as a mental health support forum, but everyone is welcome as long as they want to contribute to the community. Q. Can I invite people to kintsugi? Yes. Feel free to invite anyone you think would be a good addition to the community - whether it’s because they could use support, you could use their support, or you just want them around to talk cool fandom stuff. Q. Do I have to tell people about my abuse/health/experience history? No. You never have to disclose anything you don’t wish to. Q: I signed up but never got a confirmation email, what gives? All email notifications are turned off as some users may have abusers monitoring their emails, and having those people find out about the forum could put those users in danger. New accounts are hand-confirmed by mods: just check back later. Q: Then how do I reset my password? Contact Seebs (either email or non-anon on tumblr) with convincing evidence that you are the user you say you are and they can reset it for you. Q. Why did a post show up way after the timestamp says it was posted? Some users are on post moderation - see the moderation section for details - and moderators don't always approved them right away, since sometimes they require discussion and sometimes we sleep. Some posts also get moved, like a heavy politics comment might be moved from the politics joke thread to the heavy politics thread, generally with user input. Q. How do I make suggestions/give feedback on the forum? Create a thread in the Meta forum or message Seebs on the forum. Q. How do I rename my account? An admin has to rename it for you. You can ask in this thread. Q. What can I post in what subforum? See the glossary for information on subforums, but also don't worry about it too much: if you determine later that you meant for it to be somewhere else, you can ask a moderator to move it for you. Q. What are the community guidelines? One of the whole things here is that there is no punitive response if you don't know, and they're guidelines, not rules. But there are some guidelines here in the Read This First thread. Q. How can I warn for triggers? Spoiler: answer contains images When creating a thread, you can add tags upon creation warning for triggers. They appear below the thread title when the thread is opened. You can also warn for triggers in your posts by putting the triggering content in a spoiler. Highlight the triggering text and select “insert” and then “spoiler” Put the trigger(s) in the title The resulting code should look like this. The content must be between the Code: [SPOILER] and Code: [/SPOILER] tags for the spoiler to work Q. What are threads labeled "vent"? A vent thread is a common name for most threads within Brainbent and it’s subforum, The Holler Closet. A vent thread can be whatever the creator wants it to be, be that a place to let out negative emotions and scream, a place to talk to and hang out with friends, or just a place to talk to yourself about whatever. What you do with and in a vent thread is up to you, just make sure that you’re still respectful of The One Rule™ and that people may be reading what you’re posting, even if you don’t want or expect them to. Additionally, you can create a vent thread and ask that it be moved to the Caring Void, a subforum where only people with the link to threads (and mods) can read them. Q. What do I do if another user and I get into a heated argument? There are multiple options at your disposal. Remember to always take care of yourself first, and that, no matter the discussion, you always reserve the right to walk away from it, with or without explanation. No one, mod or otherwise, will ever try to force you to participate in an argument/debate. That said, a heated argument, especially when requested, should be directed to That Could Have Gone Better, otherwise known as Argument Island. All threads made there are open to everyone, but you can ping certain people using the @username command, request third parties to not participate, and request mediators at your will. Other tools at your disposal include: Ignoring the user Ignoring the thread Ignoring the forum Walking away Q. What do I do if I want to leave an argument/What do I do if someone starts to argue with me about something I can’t/don’t want to discuss? You are not required to engage. You can just leave. Posting that you are doing so is polite, but you are not required to disclose or engage with things that make you uncomfortable. Q. What’s up with RP on Kintsugi? There’s a whole separate FAQ for that. Spoiler: Subaccounts Q. How do I set up a sub-account? Spoiler: answer contains images Hover over your name in the top right to reveal an options menu: Select “Sub-Accounts” On the redirected page, you’ll find this form: a password and email are not required. Once you’ve created a new sub, it’ll appear in a list above! You can login to any sub by clicking “login as user” in the top left of the screen: From there, you’ll see a list of your sub accounts to choose from. When you are logged into a sub, you’ll see a red button that says “logged in as [username]” in the top right. Q. Can people tell that a particular sub is mine? No, nobody can tell which sub belongs to who except for admins. People can tell that it is a subaccount, but only admins can see who it belongs to. Admin observation is based on IP addresses, and admins don’t track those down unless there’s a problem that requires it. Spoiler: Moderation Q. What is post moderation? Post moderation means a moderator has to approve your posts before they show up. This isn't a punishment: most users have requested it because a time delay and someone who can check in with them means they're less likely to post something they regret later. Seebs, the admin, is currently on post moderation for this reason. You might also end up on moderation if you are habitually attacking other users. Q. Will I be notified if I’m put on moderation? Yes. Q. Wait, one post of mine is on moderation, what gives? The entire That Could Have Gone Better subforum is on post moderation, to keep participants limited. Posts by people not involved will most likely be Pear Wiggled. Q. What is Pear Wiggling? Moderators and admins can wiggle posts - send them to The Pear Wiggler subforum - when they don't belong in the thread they were posted in, need discussion before being made public (like asking someone to spoil something), or are strongly against the public interest. This is done rarely, explanations are usually given, and they can always be challenged or questioned. Q. How are mods chosen? People who stuck out as having good emotional regulation and are in enough of a spread of time zones that there should usually be at least one on. Q. Why hasn't a mod done something about [x]? Probably because one hasn't seen it. There is a small moderation team, and in most cases we rely on reports to draw our attention to things that require it, including moving things to a new subforum. Q. Can I appeal a mod decision? Absolutely. If you have any questions or complaints or want to debate something a mod has done, you can post a thread in That's So Meta! (public) or The Caring Void (only you and the mod team) or contact the mods individually. Q. How do I contact a mod individually? Beldaran prefers PM Chiomi is fine with PM but prefers Discord for anything requiring immediate attention (Chiomi#6406) No one else has as yet expressed a preference. Spoiler: The most important question Q. Glub? Glub!