Discussion in 'That's So Meta!' started by lvkz, Jun 23, 2019.
thats the issue
Also I Might Be Starting A New Account To Get Around The Restrictions So Everybody Please Approve That
i wanna discuss things that happened because opening up is a big mistake and i wanna message some people privately
i'll be transparent about who i was before as always
If you mean that you can't post on other people's profiles, nobody can do that. You post on your own profile, or (depending on settings) sometimes people can comment on other people's profile posts, but they can't post to other people's profiles directly. If you mean that you can't post to the front page yourself, I don't have access to admin settings, but I thought that you were able to do that, it just had to go through postmod? I could be mistaken, but that was what I remembered.
The inability to start conversations is part of the post moderation. If you have any existing conversations, you should be able to reply to those, or other people should be able to initiate conversations with you. But people on post moderation often have trouble with controlling explosive anger bursts, and this minimizes the chances of users being privately attacked during meltdown spirals. It is inconvenient, I know, but it's been a way users have been hurt in the past.
Dodging restrictions is... not something that the mod team is going to enable or support. I'm glad you don't plan to try to hide your identity, but there's nothing wrong with your current account. The trouble is with your personal behavior. I know it sucks, but deliberately setting out to dodge the measures that have been put in place is not going to help you here.
that’s not how it works, dude. you’re on post mod because you get worked up and attack people, so it’s best for them and you if those posts don’t go through. your new account would be on post mod too, so like. no point.
i feel like it's been long enough to lifte the restrictions
i'm still probably gonna make a new account when it does happen, so i can just feel like i have a fresh start. i'll be transparent about who i was before so people can block me.
i don't like doing everything in public. a public face changes everything. the whole nature of the conversation changes. private conversations don't turn into fights because there's no audience to prove shit to
theres no way for me to access the form to post
but i still wouldn't anyway because i don't want to post under this name. i want to start anew with grudges in the past.
dude there's literally a post from you in the post mod queue saying "i hate you. i want to slash you."
this is exactly what i would consider compelling evidence that it is not yet safe to have you posting things that aren't being reviewed by mods.
isn't that just honesty though?
the person's not gonna see it. i'm just being honest
it's not evidence that i'm "UNSAFE", i'm words on the internet.
we can talk nice, or we can talk mean, the feelings are the same.
just because that person didn't say "you're ugly and worthless" doesn't mean they didn't successfully express that sentiment to me
they did it by comparing themselves to me.
people have all different ways of expressing hate. it's not obvious which one is more or less hurtful
i also JUST did that, like at the same time as i sent that other message to jack about what happened.
if i didn't send that and just sent the other message, would your opinion change? your opinion might change but my feelings wouldn't. i would have just held back words. so there's no actual difference? i'm still hurt, no one else is getting hurt. i'm safely taking the pain for everybody
if you have me wait and do nothing, nothing will change. it will just be more time passing between being mad then and being mad now. i can still get right in that space and consider "wow, how really fucked up what that person did is" and instantly get just as mad
there would be no literal actual difference, it would just be happening without words, at a different time. it can literally happen whenever from now until the end of time, because the person still did that. nothing will change. that's what happens when you shut down and quarantine people
as much as i believe going "hey, that hurt my feelings" is weaksauce bullshit that will never ever stop people from hurting you, enables them more, and gives them tips on how to hurt you, that's apparently how we do things here
I'm not a mod, but it hasn't even been a month since you were saying some pretty horrendous things.
im not sure why you want a new account if this is how you're still acting, like. there is no 'grudges' or anything that are going to be wiped away if you're still a dick with a different name attached.
be more specific. when you say "this is how youre acting and youre a dick" it kinda makes me think you're just a hater. like you don't know me, so you must have some idea of me that you hate. that idea is more useful to me as a self imporvement tool than a just "i don't like you"
we're two different people and i can't form your entire perception of me because its clouded by being me. we're not friends, so i can't trust you to tell me where my behavior differs from the norm.
that's kinda why i disregard most people's hatred of me, also as a survival tool i can't get emotionally fucked up by everyone who hates "me" because then i take on all the negative perceptions that they hate. it's like we're all mutually feeding and nurturing me to be a shitty person, and then not knowing what to do with it. what did you exactly want here. please be satisfied because i've been going along with this, trusting you all, thinking that it's going to turn out at some point. trusting that you had a plan.
i don't hate you because i don't know you, so please don't refer to me as a 'hater'.
i am calling you a dick because the way you conduct yourself is rude, fairly vicious, and when combined it winds up being this package that I present to others who act the same way: being a dick.
also I really dislike the "mutually feeding and nurturing me to be a shitty person" comment in the above post, can we like. not.
i have literally no ties to you, you're doing this on your own man, don't pass the buck for your behavior to a bystander.
lukas, quit shadow boxing. dave, don’t turn it into a real fight.
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