Is Kintsugi anti-recovery?

National Domestic Violence Hotline.

Hard agree! Tacking a little bit onto this, I think discomfort is the only real driving force behind change. If I’m uncomfortable wearing shoes that are too small, that will motivate me to take them off and buy bigger ones. If lots of people are uncomfortable in a community, that may motivate them to speak up and ask for change. It’s good! It’s Mother Nature’s kick in the pants to get off your ass.

Noisy Stompy Disorder belongs to the people. Do what you will. It’s public domain.

 

The most evil thing in the world is Change - except for his more evil brother Surprise. I can't deal with either of them.

 

<break temporarily suspended for different thing> Noted about that hotline, thanks!
Discomfort and surprise are important motivators for me personally.

Spoiler: personal anecdata

Spoiler: abuse cw

I realized yesterday that the only time I'm able to reliably make deadlines on things that will actually keep me alive is when I'm in real physical danger of dying from something. This possibly ties into the theory my psychiatrist was speculating on that I may have severe type 2 adhd! So discomfort is an important catalyst for action for me, particularly if it's sudden, jarring discomfort.

That said I agree that sometimes it's the opposite of what is needed to help. Sometimes also for me! I think it's really important that people be able to figure out what works for them, what makes them shut down and what drives them forward. It can be hard to do that if people attempt to help and accidentally press on the opposite kind of help needed. There's never going to be any way to surefire prevent that from happening, but I think it's important that people research their conditions with credible info and look at what works for other people with the same diagnosis. It's really scary to be diagnosed with a thing, try to look up info about it, and find just thinkpiece after thinkpiece about how you're Doomed or telling you that yoga will fix things. If I ever make that pipedream thread, I'll try to include links to credible sources of information about various disorders, so people who are feeling lost/uncertain about where even to begin to look at the recovery process can have a start post.

 

I know for me, threats and sicomfort tends to make me shut down and procrastinate more than anything. That or just straight up dig my heels in and refuse.

 

I was caught between wanting to rate that as 'witnessed' or 'informative' so i hope a portmanteau of witformative is okay.

 

That would be lovely C:
And yeah, I'll make a note to add one. When it comes to how bad off you have to be... like, obvs that's gonna vary a lot for different people, but for me I reach for crisis line numbers when intrusive thoughts become all my thoughts and I'm on the edge of active self-harm or notice that I've been doing passive self harm. I often use digital crisis lines for that, in those lines where I'm not quite suicidal but also very much not okay and need to reach out to someone trained to tell me that I will be okay later.

 

I've called in the middle of a potentially dangerous situation in lieu of calling 911 (bad idea, don't do this, just call 911 unless you will be hurt for calling the cops), but I've also called a couple of days after one for help processing things that happened, and I've also called when I'm feeling like garbage and I suspect it might be tangentially related to [thing the hotline does].

They would really prefer you call them instead of hurting yourself or others or just being miserable. It's their job to answer the phone and be there for you, so it's not like you're imposing on anyone that didn't choose to man the phone lines. If that helps to think about.