Putting this in here because while it may be An Autism Thing I have no confirmed diagnosis and no clue :P Initial disclaimer: I'm poly. That part is not a problem. The problem is a thing that happens with both friends and partners (and partners tend to be friends first, anyhow), which is specifically that it is really, really difficult for me to remember to contact people if I am not seeing them in person on a regular basis. What this tends to mean is that during the school year I pretty much only have extensive conversations with STL friends, and during the summer I pretty much only have extensive conversations with Seattle friends. This has the unfortunate consequence of me really, really sucking at keeping in contact with people I deeply care about and want to talk to. It just doesn't occur to me. If I don't see them often they just cease to exist in my brain beyond "hey, maybe retweet that thing for them". Is this a thing anyone else deals with? Am I a self-centered asshole? Does anyone have advice?