Reporting the mods

okay, thanks

sorry, did you mean, "what's actually happening?" i am Not Here for your gaslighting bullshit.

not what's happening, thanks

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get-a-load-of-this-guy-cam

 

you've BEEN GIVEN pointers on how to say this and are refusing to do so

at this point, i'm struggling not to believe that it isn't malicious

 

man, and i'm particularly offended by the transphobia in that quote, mother of fuck

 

you keep asking if spock is a girl. you can very, very easily check this yourself.

many binary-pronoun people here designate male or female on their accounts*. you can easily view this by clicking their icon. it's safe to use 'they' for people who don't have it listed, unless they explicitly tell you otherwise.

*nonbinary pronouns can't be listed on the account this way, as far as i understand

 

Look, I'm sorry that you were hurt by my poor word-choices that put the weight of importance on what seem like wrong things. I don't understand completely why pronouns and making sure to always say "people" when referring to transpeople is important except that you consider it important and I should use up spoons on making it so automatic that I won't screw up.

But when I tried to express how I didn't have the spoons to spare, I said it wrong. Basic housework is more important in a "put on your own mask first" way. I'll make a lot more progress at a more satisfying pace if I can get things to a point where sobriety is sustainable. Having the kitchen clean enough so that my husband doesn't yell at me or throw things, or that I don't get overwhelmed just by looking at it, that is more important than fixing an ingrained word-habit. That's just the way it is and I'm sorry if you're still going to be upset about it.

 

Oh, okay. Mine reads female when I don't want it to.

 

It’s exactly like Seeb’s said: you’re going to have to be truthful for a real long time and stick to it —which you’ve yet to do— for me to even believe this.

Did you forget about me giving you resources? Yes? Well let me remind you: I, a trans person, bothered to take time out of my day to help you, and when you fucked up and fucked up bad? You dug your heels in even deeper. Not to mention pronouns are a thing needed to even make the English language work and it is very important period Even people who prefer not to use them still need something because using someone’s name over and over gets really weird. You fucked up. You fucked up real bad. But you couldn’t give me the time of day for the human decency to apologize right away? Let alone apologize to everyone else? Yeah, no, I don’t believe you’re working on it. Time will tell with that one.

I get that change is hard but I’m not here for you attempting to garner sympathy I don’t have. Fuck off with that. And frankly? I don’t care much for you attempting to manipulate. You’re either going to do the work of treating other human beings with decency or you’re going to stay miserable. Your choice.

I get that you’re feeling erased, and I understand it’s frustrating. That’s valid. But being in the cishet range has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that you don’t like it when it isn’t about you and people won’t budge from it because you decided to be an abuser.

LMFAO it’s real cute that you think you can make me feel bad for you on this one. Yeah, pronouns can be really hard, I know. I get them wrong sometimes too.

I’m going to request nicely only the once:

Please use “she” when you refer to me.

And apologize to me.

 

I have a spinning compass error on Pal and just gave up. Fanfiction writer = girl. Also, I've been using they for Spock because I thought I was told to just use they for everyone.

 

Uh, actually I am a girl.

 

I did forget. What happened to being afraid I would screw up being a valid feeling?

 

this is a really bad apology, holy shit

if you want me to break down why, i will, but i'm not putting in that effort unless you ask

 

Okay, so you're threatening to do X if I don't stop Y. What are you threatening me against?

 

Which is why I don't tend to apologize very easily. I would ask for your help, but it's not worth the effort right now, thank you.

 

@Athol Magarac here's an excellent time to practice apologizing. Apologize for doing that thing and promise to not do it again. Then don't do that thing.