Reporting the mods

Discussion in 'That's So Meta!' started by Athol Magarac, Oct 24, 2018.

  1. Athol Magarac

    Athol Magarac I prefer reading posts without a lot of topics.

    Speaking of important stuff getting wiggled... Athol Magarac, Nov 17, 2018 at 5:43 PM
     
  2. Athol Magarac

    Athol Magarac I prefer reading posts without a lot of topics.

    Stop lying when I wasn't? Stop talking about her when she's just going to assume it's about her anyway?
     
  3. Kathy

    Kathy Well-Known Member

    The words you have tangibly actually used by typing them out with your fingers and hitting submit on this forum when talking about Spock, that she has documented, have been lies and misrepresentations.

    You are also projecting your own behaviors onto Spock. Spock is not invested in you to the point of holding a grudge. Spock has repeatedly said that she would like this all to stop.

    Sometimes you have thought you weren't talking about Spock, because you keep conflating the mods into a homogeneous mass of authority you perceive as unfairly discriminating against you, but you were.

    If you can explain that you understand that your threats, insults, and sundry attempts at causing harm to Spock were bad regardless of how you felt about them or what your reasons where, and apologize for trying to cause harm, and then stop talking about Spock?

    Spock will stop talking to you!
     
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  4. seychel

    seychel stubbornly

    Yo if you're worried about that last part being an issue try being more clear about who you're talking about. Or what you're talking about.

    Someone who might not have been you, I suck at keeping track, said that they disliked vagueing, and at one point you said something rude that seemed to be about Spock, but you later clarified that it was about Neshomeh.

    You could try clarifying that in post. Put it under a spoiler if you want.

    If you really want people to cut down on the assumptions it would go a long way for that.
     
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  5. Chiomi

    Chiomi Master of Disaster

    Emphasis mine. This is a problem. You are not reading context and are ascribing worst possible motives to the things you do not read. This means you're engaging with a significantly different reality than everyone else. It's going to be confusing and unpleasant for everyone involved.

    I also think you'd have a much better time if you either read everything or employed the principle of charity to the things you choose not to read.
     
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  6. Athol Magarac

    Athol Magarac I prefer reading posts without a lot of topics.

    Yeah, I'm not being unfairly discriminated against, I just found another thread where another user had a similar issue. It happens all the time.

    Look. Spock, there have been misunderstandings on both sides. If we could just clear them up as they become relevant, that would be great. I'm sorry about threatening to show you how much you were hurting me.
     
  7. Snitchanon

    Snitchanon What's a mod to a nonbeliever.

    If that's what I'm thinking of, that's hilarious.

    Nah.

    This remains a pathetically bad apology, no matter how much you try to say the same thing in different words.
     
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  8. Kathy

    Kathy Well-Known Member

    Not an appropriate apology.
    Here's how to have made than an appropriate apology:

    "I'm sorry about threatening you."
     
  9. Athol Magarac

    Athol Magarac I prefer reading posts without a lot of topics.

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  10. spockandawe

    spockandawe soft and woolen and writhing with curiosity

    Right, first off, let's not bring a completely unrelated person who isn't involved and isn't here to speak into the mix. I don't think anyone is likely to appreciate that happening behind their back. Some people may be indifferent, some will have a sharp negative reaction, let's not experiment with what happens in this case.

    And I've just gotten back to Virginia from many states away, I'm still settling in and trying to catch up, and I'm also supposed to be working almost a full day on top of that. I'm following along, but I can't do much of anything yet. Hippo apology was solid, the schizophrenia apology was disappointing, and I appreciate that you're making an effort to apologize here, but including an excuse while glossing past what was actually done is a combination that undermines most of what you're trying to do.

    Eta: the apology that posted while i was typing this is much better, thank you for that.
     
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  11. Snitchanon

    Snitchanon What's a mod to a nonbeliever.

    Note: this was unwiggled because I thought it contained things it didn't. My bad.
     
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  12. seychel

    seychel stubbornly

    If that was at my post, shit, sorry about that.
     
  13. spockandawe

    spockandawe soft and woolen and writhing with curiosity

    No no, you're fine! I was referring to Athol's comment about the person who seemed to have similar problems to her.
     
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  14. Athol Magarac

    Athol Magarac I prefer reading posts without a lot of topics.

    Yeah, sorry for vauging. It was more too lazy to look it up at the moment, but it worked out.
     
  15. Grief

    Grief ...


    If Spock was threatening or sexually harassing you in response to what you say about her, that would also be completely unacceptable.


    It's not that you respond to her or communicate your feelings, it's how you do it that's a problem.


    (edit: spelling)
     
    Last edited: Nov 20, 2018
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  16. Athol Magarac

    Athol Magarac I prefer reading posts without a lot of topics.

    That came later. At one point, I was just reading their tone as incredibly hostile and I wanted them to stop talking directly to me.
     
  17. Grief

    Grief ...


    This is something that has been brought up numerous times: Spock would have stopped talking to you if you had stopped talking about her. You did not stop talking about her.


    She has a right to talk about events she was involved in, if you are also talking about those events. Just like you are able to dispute her version of events, she can dispute yours.



    (There was also some discussion about still interacting with you in a mod capacity, I don't remember what conclusion if any was reached about that.)
     
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  18. Grief

    Grief ...

    Also, more importantly: You had other options besides threatening and sexually harassing Spock.



    What you did to get her to stop talking to you was not justified, or acceptable.
     
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  19. Athol Magarac

    Athol Magarac I prefer reading posts without a lot of topics.

    Like what, exactly? They could have stopped interacting with me, especially when I was talking about a different mod.
     
  20. Lizardlicks

    Lizardlicks Friendly Neighborhood Lizard

    And also; plain didn't work and actively made it worse for you.
     
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