Sorting stuff out

No.

 

Should we get Beldaran in here to mediate?

 

Why not?

 

Because that was a blatant misinterpretation of my post, and I felt the need to clarify that this was not, in fact, what I meant.

 

You can clarify without taking quotes of my vent thread elsewhere. People have said over and over and over and over that that's a bad move. Knock it the fuck off and delete it. I am not ok with this.

 

Yes, but I do feel like the people I'm arguing with are "assholes" when drama happens, this is a way for me to remember that yes, I do mean every person involved, and not, those ones don't "not count".
And that's fair, I'll remove the quote.

 

Clarifying: that was a reminder for myself, that I set as my own wallpaper, that "Random assholes on the internet are still people, [I should] try to remember that"

Also, re: mutual ignore: Actually, that would be great. I only come back to argue with people if they keep interacting with my posts.

 

Do you feel up to answering my questions on the last page?

 

I think one factor in remorse is 'I wish I could go back and not do this thing/undo this thing that I did'. It's not the only factor.

 

Okay, that's definitely a thing in my case, even with the current drama.

I answered as many questions as I noticed? Can you please quote the ones I missed here?

 

No problem

 

I think some people would say that remorse entitles feeling bad for the effect on the other person, not just the effect on you. However, that doesn't mean you can't also feel bad for how it's gotten you backlash. So that's the next thing to sort out. If you feel bad for the effect on the other person regardless of if you like them, then I think you can say 'I'm sorry I did that to you' and not have it be a lie.

 

I'd say it's definitely the first one, if even someone I love makes me mad, they suddenly become Evil Incarnate™. It's apparently a BPD thing.
As for your example, situations like these have led to actual fights, so, yes.

 

Can you usually catch yourself feeling angry? Like, are you aware of when your stress and anger is starting to build?

 

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Hold up, Spock. I am not sure what PMs I have supposedly received? I don't have PMs from Beldaran or Palindrome.

 

It's possible. What I typically do is just getting up and leaving, but that's not always possible, and I don't really know how to do that online as I've got an extremely low tolerance for boredom, so outright logging out wouldn't work. I guess I could try using a browser extension to temporarily block the site and then go play a video game or something. But then the posts are still there when I get back, so IDK :/

That's fair, I shouldn't have posted there and just wanted to point out that the PM thing was a blatant lie, I kinda had the impulsive reaction to put it directly as an answer in that thread. We can discuss it further somewhere else if you want, I guess?
Anyway, yeah, I stopped quoting people's posts, both here and in my vent thread. I'd rather not put the Holler Closet on ignore since there was some stuff I posted here that I felt needed to be commented on for this discussion to go better, but I'll definitely stop checking it out as often.