Swelling in my mouth (resolved)

Discussion in 'General Advice' started by Acey, Mar 10, 2015.

  1. Acey

    Acey breathtaking, heartbreaking

    Yesterday, I developed a swollen sore patch in my mouth. I assumed it was just the result of me biting my cheek in my sleep, but it keeps getting more swollen. I'm also having some soreness and tenderness in my jaw and some swelling and pain in my neck, both on the same side as the swelling. I've been feeling under the weather in general. And when I asked a friend of mine who's in medical school, she told me to see a doctor right away.

    Thing is, I live at home and my mom refuses to take me to see a doctor. She thinks I'm overreacting. But I'm really concerned, and I need the peace of mind at the very least.

    What do I do?

    (A pic of the lump can be found here: http://aradiamegido.com/post/113281894283/should-i-be-worried-about-this-swelling-it)
     
  2. Kaylotta

    Kaylotta Writer Trash

    If someone with medical training says you should see a doctor, then you should probably see a doctor. Sudden and rapidly developing things like that are best caught early. (Perhaps something is infected, if you bit your cheek?)
     
  3. Acey

    Acey breathtaking, heartbreaking

    H
    How do I convince my mom to take me, though?
     
  4. Kaylotta

    Kaylotta Writer Trash

    Good question. I'm really not sure. Hey, @seebs, you tend to be good at phrasing things...
     
  5. Acey

    Acey breathtaking, heartbreaking

    On my way to urgent care now, via the bus.

    Wish me well.
     
    • Like x 2
  6. Lissiel

    Lissiel Dreaming dead

  7. Kaylotta

    Kaylotta Writer Trash

    Much luck! I hope it ends up being nothing serious :/
     
  8. seebs

    seebs Benevolent Dictator

    What the fuck is wrong with your mom, holy shit. When a medical person says go do the thing, that means you are not "overreacting".
     
    • Like x 3
  9. Acey

    Acey breathtaking, heartbreaking

    I know, I'm pissed at her too. She's normally awesome but she's being SUCH a bitch about this.
     
  10. Acey

    Acey breathtaking, heartbreaking

    My mom is telling me we'll have to discuss payment because I had blood work done AT A DOCTOR'S ORDER. Keep in mind that I am unemployed and broke. Oh, and it's an abscess and I need antibiotics.

    I HAVE A FUCKING ABSCESS AND I HATE MY MOM.
     
  11. Kaylotta

    Kaylotta Writer Trash

    ...wow. that's really shitty. What's the bill looking like, do you know?
     
  12. seebs

    seebs Benevolent Dictator

    ... Sooo you weren't overreacting, then.

    BTW, if you are not covered by insurance, some doctors will radically alter bills if they don't think insurance is paying them.
     
  13. Acey

    Acey breathtaking, heartbreaking

    I'm under insurance, yeah.

    She's taking it out of my allowance. She's also insisting that an abscess isn't a big deal and it would go away on its own, and that I shouldn't have seen a doctor so quickly.

    What a bitch, God.
     
  14. kmoss

    kmoss Under Construction

    Yeah, uh, all google searches I've done on abscesses say that you could have been seriously fucked over.
    So...

    citation needed, i guess, on the part of your mom
     
    • Like x 2
  15. Acey

    Acey breathtaking, heartbreaking

    Yeah, that's the impression I got too.

    She also bitched me out for "never trusting her," which is fucking bull.
     
  16. Lissiel

    Lissiel Dreaming dead

    Uh, if its infected theres a really good chance it would actually have gotten much worse --and more expensive--if you waited? Like, those aren't the kind of things that usually just get better.

    And lol at trusting her when she's actually measurably wrong in a way that would have seriously harmed you.

    #not how trust works
     
    Last edited: Mar 10, 2015
    • Like x 2
  17. kmoss

    kmoss Under Construction

    Plus, this whole "doesn't come through when you need medical treatment" thing is a pretty dark check in favor of not trusting her, too.
     
    • Like x 4
  18. rigorist

    rigorist On the beach

    Good on you for getting this done.

    It's time to start planning your departure.
     
  19. liminal

    liminal I'm gonna make it through this year if it kills me

    I'm not really surprised, my family is like that too.
    It's really fucking shitty and depressing.
     
  20. seebs

    seebs Benevolent Dictator

    That's completely, totally, wrong. She is full of shit.

    Look, if she'd been a jerk about it originally and then said "holy shit an abcess oh my god I am so sorry I was wrong not to trust you", that wouldn't be abusive, just clueless. Happens. But... This? This is rewriting reality to get away from being wrong. That's seriously fucked up.
     
  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice