Okay, so I live in a house with a great many other people. This is new for me; I have not lived with many people before. I'm used to being able to stick a pot in the sink, run some water into it so the food doesn't stick, and get to it when I have the spoons to get to it. (Which is often several hours later. Or two or three days later, when things are bad.) My roommates have started leaving passive-aggressive notes on my mail and around the sink nagging about the fact that dishes have to get done on a regular basis. My instinctive response to nag notes like that is to put it off longer so that I don't reward them for leaving the notes up. This is not sustainable. The problem is that the other people here are neurotypical enough that they assume that the reason you don't do the dishes is not because of spoondrain but because you Don't Care About Living Somewhere Filthy. I want them to stop leaving notes, because I know dishes are a problem for me and leaving them just means I put it off even longer. How do I explain?