So, @fake and gay, if you have the spoons to respond to this: First, I hope you're feeling a lot better than you were when you posted that vent that got this whole discussion started! Second, I did read that original thread the first night, as I intended, and I've been mulling it over since. What you've posted in this thread has certainly helped me understand why you didn't want to do the thing, but I'm still not really comprehending why you asked if I had read the original thread after I first posted here. Maybe there is something that is obvious to you that I'm not perceiving, bc my brain does that sometimes, but it looks to me like what you originally posted here to start the thread (which is what I based my post on) gave a pretty accurate picture of the original event. I still feel like the importance of tagging or spoilering content when requested by other users (mods or not) is a sensible application of the guiding principle of the forum, not a special rule that exists, or needs to be stated, separately - but this might be because I interpret seebs' One Rule to mean "behave as though other people matter" and maybe there's more wiggle room in that interpretation than I am perceiving? Sorry if this is derailing at all, this thread has kind of moved forward into what I think is a productive discussion, but i'm still interested in understanding your perspective further, if there is anything more you would want to communicate on the topic.