So as those of you who know me pretty much at all know, I am terrified of fucking up in even the most minor of ways. This is because I have...well, basically I apply impossible standards to myself, and to literally no one else. Now, here's the thing. I talked about it with my therapist on Friday, and we both kinda assumed it was a trauma thing...except my mom later told me, when I told her how the appointment went, that I've always been like that. She told me that even as a toddler I'd cry and panic and worry about Consequences for things like spilling a cup of juice--like, REALLY minor things that my parents actually weren't even slightly upset by. This continues to this day. I forget to text someone back? Shit, I must be the worst friend/girlfriend/daughter ever despite all evidence to the contrary! I break a plate? Oh no, my mom is gonna be so upset even though logically I know she'll be slightly sad about the plate breaking at MOST and won't blame me for dropping it! And of course, it's not just over minor things like that. Like I said, my standards for myself are literally impossible--I need a job and a degree and universal adoration (or at least universal not-hate) and for no one to ever be disappointed in me. So two questions: 1. What do you think is responsible for this? (Note that, as I said, it's a lifelong thing.) 2. What are some coping tips?