what do i do

talking with person i like lots
have crush on person
tell person about crush
person says not right time or place for them, don't know if interested in me, etc
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promise to not flirt, talk about crush
find it hard but manage fairly well (bad at hiding emotions, crush still v strong)
time passes
boundaries get wonkier
are we flirting i don't know but encourages dumbbrain to push things
get upset at self
don't know how to interpret person's reactions to me saying am upset at self for pushing things
can't ask them to talk about it they are v bad at that
don't feel like can ask them to police own boundaries they are kinda bad at that
don't trust self
can't make crush go away except by stopping talking to them altogether
am disgrace to humanity
what do

 

If it helps, in my experience, crushes do fade eventually. It can take a very, very long time, but after long enough without reciprocation they generally just go away, for me at least.

Still, it's a tough situation, and I wish I had actual advice to give. :c

 

Yes, crushes do fade. Never quickly enough (if you ask me), but there will be a time when it's just gone in my experience.

Regarding the boundaries, you can have a conversation with this person that amounts to something like this:
'Remember when I told you I had a crush on you? I know you said you don't have a crush on me, but I have received some mixed signals lately. Can we agree that if you do ever reciprocate my feelings that you tell me? Until that time (if ever) I will just interprete all signals as friend signals only

Or something like that. Probably someone can tweak this to make this clearer? You get the gist hopefully.

 

basically told person we had to stop being textually affectionate cos i couldn't take it as platonic
person perfectly happy with this no sign that they give even the tiniest shit might even be happy bout it
oh well

eta: was being unfair. they are sad too. will stop being entitled douchenugget now

 

-offer hugs and pets-