Discussion in 'Braaaaiiiinnnns...' started by tickingnectarine, Aug 17, 2019.
As someone who bases their entire self-worth on being useful and valuable to others, and has been a perfectionist since middle school, saying "failure is a good thing!" Is not helpful.
If i fail, im not good enough. If im not good enough, people dont need or like me. If people dont need or like me, i may as well die.
this isn't like meant as a snide remark, from the bottom of my heart, holy fuck that is unhealthy. Dude you are good enough just as you are. Self improvement is for yourself, because you want to do it, not for other people. You are inherently valuable and valued, without any further action required. and maladaptive perfectionism is definitely a thing to talk to a shrink about if you have one/are considering to get one.
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