serious question: why does it matter? like, what is the purpose of being a good person to you? there are people in my past that i've hurt. there are people i have hurt, and who want nothing to do with me, and who i want to apologize and make amends with, but ... they don't want anything to do with me. they may think i'm a Bad Person Forever And Ever, and ... okay. i can't fix that. i cannot make my past better. i was going to say earlier, when you were asking about closure from abuse, that sometimes you just. give up hope of having had a better past. and that's true for when you've hurt people and there are no amends you can make to fix that too. i know that for me, being a good person is helping who i can and trying to make a better future. and with forgiveness for myself, when i'm not enough, when i mess up, when i hurt people. it's okay if people hate you. it's okay if someone never forgives you. it doesn't mean you're bad forever. it means you respect those people's boundaries, and leave them alone, and do other things.